How to Find Your Passions - What would be ideal?

How do you find your passion - Part 13

What would your ideal life be like?

You're now in the 4th part of the exercise. So far you have looked at your Past: Successes, Childhood, and Experience. Then you looked at Who You Are: Skills and talents, Your uniqueness, Your sentence, and Values. Then you looked at what you are interested in: What you love to do, What you actually do, Why.

Now we're going to look at the 4th bit - What would you like?

After all, this finding your passion thing is to improve your life, right? No point in choosing something that you actually don't want, is there? So let's set out some tools for looking at what would be ideal.

What is ideal then?

What would your ideal life include?

If you were to think of every area in your life, how would it be if it was ideal?

We're not really going for some impossible version of perfection - you know, you'd like to be a rock star, but in reality you can't hold a tune, or you would really like to be tall but you are short - but of those things that you can influence, how would you like your life to be?

Here are some categories to get you going:

- Relationships
- Family
- Friends
- Home
- Lifestyle
- Creativity
- Fun
- Relaxation
- Holidays
- Travel
- Stuff (you know, possessions and such)
- Purpose
- Spiritual Growth
- Health
- Work

When I made mine I found that for each category I broke it down more. So for Home it had a subcategory of Garden, which then had about 6 items of things that I would like for my garden.

A tool to find what your ideal life is

What to Do Now

You could start with a list.

Then group things into areas.

A mind map is great for this.

Here is the beginning of my mind map. My actual finished one had many many items and sub items - seems I have lots of  'ideal'.

Here is a blank mind map you can download free to help you with this step

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Are there any things here that seem of utmost importance?

Are there any new ideas?

How to Find Your Passions - What are your Curiosities?

How do you find your passion - Part 11

What are you curious about?

Sometimes our real interests lie in our future. What we are doing right now doesn't quite cut it. Otherwise we wouldn't be searching for the next thing, right?

One of the things we need to check in with is what we are actively curious about.

And in this age of google and all things interwebby, we all have access to an enormous amount of information. So by looking at what you search for and look at and listen to (Ted Talks anyone?) might illuminate some areas of interest and passion too.

What do you investigate for fun?

So, what are your curiosities?

What sort of things fascinate you?

What do you want to know more about?

What do you search for on google?

What do you read for interest?

What do you talk about for interest?

Step 11 in finding your passion

What to do now

Make a list of all the areas that you are curious about. These are the things that you are actively curious about - those ones that you actually spend time investigating. The ones where you think you might be interested in, or should be interested in don't count here. Just the ones that you notice you actually spend your time on.

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Any common themes?

How to Find Your Passions - Why You Love what you Love

How do you find your passion - part 10

What do you love to do and what do you really do?

So, in the last 2 sections, you've made lists or mind maps of what you CHOOSE to spend your time on and what you LOVE.

You used these questions as a framework for bringing to light what you love:

What do you choose to do with your free time?

When you have discretionary time, what activity gets your vote?

What activities bring you joy?

What's your favourite part of each day?

Which things are you pulled by love to do, not pushed by force?

Now we are going to look at WHY?

Why do you love what you love?

You need to be quite specific here, what is it about the activity that brings you joy?

So for example, I love to cross stitch. For me, it is the ability to let my mind idle while I do it and think about my dreams and ideas in an unforced way. the whole restfulness of it all. Its also about the detail and following a pattern, and using my hands to do something. But it might be being creative and making up a new pattern for someone else. Or creating a useful something for another person. Same activity, different motivations.

The next step

What to do now

1. Take your list of what you love to do and what you actually do from the previous exercises.

2. Write all the 'whats' down the left hand side of a page.

3. On the right hand side of your page, for each item, write out the 'whys', WHY this thing brings you happiness and that soulfully fulfilling feeling. There might be one, or maybe several. Put them all down.

How to Find Your Passions - What you actually do

How do you find your passion - part 9

What do you really do with your time?

Chances are, you already are spending time on your passions. Just not as much of the time as you would like. So let's look at what you currently are doing to find some things that might be a passion.

What do you do right now?

What do you choose to do with your free time?

When you have discretionary time, what activity gets your vote?

In the weekend, or after work, or on a quiet Sunday afternoon, or on holiday, what do you actually DO?

After the chores and the income producing work is over, the house and animals are taken care of, what do you look forward to? What do you choose?

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What to do now

Make a list of all your discretionary activities:

What do you do in the weekend?

What do you do after work?

What do you do on holiday?

Then: group them into categories. It doesn't matter how your categories are organised, this is about making sense to you.

Create another mind map, similar to the 'What I Love to Do' one from the previous exercise.

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Are there any common themes?

How to Find Your Passions - What you love to do

How do you find your passion - part 8

What are you drawn to?

Imagine spending your day on things that you love. Time would fly, you would be in 'flow' much of the time. Your daily life would bring you joy regularly. We all want to live like this don't we? I believe that many of us can. Wouldn't that just be so great!

Well chances are, you already know some of the things you love. So lets look at what currently gives you joy to highlight exactly what might be a passion then.

What do you love to do?

What activities bring you joy?

What's your favourite part of each day?

Which things are you pulled by love to do, not pushed by force? You're looking here for the feeling and the energy behind the thing.

A quick way to find your passions

What to do now

Make a list of all the activities you currently choose to do because you love them. 

Don't forget things that might relate to people either. Do you love to hang out with people?

Then: group them into categories. It doesn't matter how your categories are organised, this is about making sense to you.

I find it helpful at this stage to make a mind map, like my one below I have started, as an example.

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How to Find Your Passion - What are Your Values?

How do you find your passion - part 7

So it's good to be following our natural inclinations and talents. To find those things that we have experience and expertise and skill in. The things that come easily to us and that we find no trouble getting out of bed to do.

But for it to be emotionally and spiritually rewarding it needs to also align with our values. There's little point in doing something just because we can, we need to be doing things because they matter to us. And they will matter because they tie in, in some way, with our deep core values and beliefs.

What are your values?

What are your deeply held beliefs?
What are your morals?
What are your ethics?
What do you rank as a virtue?
What do you stand for?

What is important in life to you?

We're looking here for those deep profound values that you hold.Where you draw the line on principles of right and wrong.

So, for example, if animal welfare is important to you, one of your values might be 'Animals have a right to a safe and pleasant life'. Or maybe honesty is next to godliness for you. So a value might be 'Honesty is essential'.

Or maybe its about something in the world, like say 'Climate change is man made and we all have a responsibility to reduce it'.

How to find your values

What to do now

1. Write down as many values you hold as you can. They will likely be diverse e.g. the honesty and climate change of the example.

2. Write down as many morals you hold, as you can.

3. Write down anything that you hold as a virtue.

4. What things are important in life to you?

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Do they group?
Are there common themes?

Good work, this is a hard one, and needs a bit of deep thinking.

How to Find Your Passion - What is Your Sentence?

How do you find your passion - Part 6

Who are you? What is your self belief?

Who do you believe yourself to be?

If you could live a life in congruence with who you are at core, then you will be spending time in a way that is satisfying and fulfilling. Who you feel you are at your core reveals a lot about what makes your life work. It makes sense then to follow that.

"I am someone who..."

Complete this sentence: "I am someone who ...".

It might be something like "I am someone who helps others". Or "I am someone who cares about animals".

It's about profoundly who you feel you are. Your self belief, self image.

This may take a bit of searching for, and serious effort. But it's worthy work.

And the next question:

"I typically try to..."

Complete this sentence: "I typically try to..."

What things do you try to do? It might be something like "I typically try to consider how others feel". Or "I typically try to find ways to help others".

How to find your self belief

What to do now

1. Make a list of everything you can to complete this sentence "I am someone who...."

2. Make a list of everything you can to complete this sentence "I typically try to...."

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Have a look at your lists. Do they feel right?

Anything there that provides an aha! moment?

How to Find Your Passion - What is Unique about You?

How do you find your passion - Part 5

Who are you? What is unique about you?

We're looking now at what is unique and important about you. 

This question is a bit more difficult. It deserves more thought. If your answers are meandering or complex, then you might be near something important, so keep going, it's worth the extra effort. 

Recognizing who you are and what you want to do can take time. But the rewards of living in tune with your passions are so much greater and more fulfilling than a meaningless journey towards some arbitrary goal, so persevere, don't give up yet.

What are you doing that people believe only you can do?

We are looking for your super powers here. 

What is it that other people believe that only you can do? What do people often come to you for you to do?

And then, which ones of these are you passionate about? Which ones are you so interested in, you have done them for free? Which ones feel fulfilling and enriching and soulfully satisfying?

Are there any things on your list that you excel at, but you have trouble motivating yourself to do? Are they hard to focus on? Do you feel you have to force yourself to do them? These ones might be things you are doing because you feel you 'should' do them, but if you are not passionate, they are not super powers.

What do other people see as your strengths?

How to uncover your true powers

What to do now

1. Make a list of everything you can think of that other people think is your special strength or task.

2. For each item on the list, highlight all those that you are passionate about.

3. Highlight any that you have done for free.

4. Highlight any that feel fulfilling to you.

5. Cross off any that you struggle to get motivated to do, that you have to force yourself to do.

6. Cross off any that feel like 'shoulds'.

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Any surprises? 

Anything that feels wrong here?

Anything that you are resisting? - clue: this might be important!

How to Find Your Passions - Your Skills and Talents

How do you find your passion - Part 4

Who are you? What do you do well?

Searching for your passion does not have to be hard or complicated. Your passion will be something that is aligned with who you are at heart. It's who you already are. It will unfold from what you know, what comes easily to you, what skills you have gained.

Its much easier to build on where you are now, rather than reinvent yourself in some new territory. Where you are now is exactly OK for now. Well, it has to be, doesn't it? Doesn't mean you can't change things and move forward. But moving forward always happens from Here.

The next step forward is what we are searching for. And it's much quicker to take a step from Here, than to wish we were elsewhere, and try and get there before we go anywhere.

We've been looking at what your past highlights - where you were successful already, and what you chose to do as a child, and your experience. Now we are going to investigate who you are. What do you do well?

What are your talents?

Life is short and you already have a bunch of experiences, inherent talents, skills and aptitudes. Chances are many of these are ones you have developed or followed because you are interested or passionate in them in some way.

So, start by making a list, or a mind map (see the diagram below for an example) of YOU.

Who are you at heart?
What are your personality attributes?
What are your skills?

Don't worry if the things that pop up don't seem to be career focused. If you are good at crafts say, but can't see how to make money out of that, or absolutely don't want to. What we're aiming for here is a bit of a brainstorm to bring to light things that are so YOU that they seem natural, and therefore possibly not obvious.

- Are you logical?
- Feeling based?
- What are your values?
- Are you crafty? Love making things?
- Sporty?
- Do you love teaching people?
- Are you a natural leader?
- Are you inquisitive?
- Do you love learning?
- Intuitive? concrete and realism based?
- Interested in giving to others or the world?
- Do you have specific skills e.g. good at gardening, or preserving

An easy way to uncover your passions

What to Do Now

Make your list as long as you can, include everything you can think of, no answer is wrong. Remember - don't limit yourself to just those things that could be income earning or career creating.

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One good way to organize all this information is to make a mind map. It might look a bit like this:

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Then take your list and group things e.g. in the example I've grouped spinning and preserving into 'Survival Skills' because that is important to me. But you might group things differently, this is about YOU and what you value and how you see the world.

Any common themes? Group these together too then.

Break each part down into smaller parts - so in my example 'Logical' breaks down into 'Persistent thinking' and 'Deep thinking' and 'Analytical' and 'Step by step'. These things have meaning to me, so I put them in. You are creating things that have meaning for you.

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Anything surprising?

Anything leap out as new information?

Anything that lights you up?

Good, these are some of the things you are trying to uncover here.

How to Find Your Passion - Your Experience

How do you find your passion - part 3

So by now you have a list of your successes, check here if you haven't. And a list of what you chose to do as a child in your free time (check here).

The third area to add to this looking-backwards is 'What experience do you have?'

Finding your passion doesn't have to be into some unknown territory that you have not been before - that wildly exciting but terrifying leap into the unknown. Chances are, you already have been doing things naturally, that are part of your passions. The trick is to find those things that are natural and easy for you. And this step is about looking at your experience.

What is your experience?

We're thinking here about things that might appear on a CV for a job - after all, you are looking for your passions for your job of life.

What things do you know how to do? What things have you learnt along the way? What things have you done over the years? What have you spent a lot of time on?

This will likely be for any jobs you have had, after all that is where we usually spend the most time. So some of these items will look like a CV for a job application. Put them all down, even if you don't want to do that job again, or stay in the same field of work. The aim here is to find what you already are good at.

Also include things that you do out-of-hours - do you belong to a group of some sort? What is your role in that group? What have you been doing in that group? Maybe you do the books for a club, or help out at a volunteer charity doing sausage sizzles, or coach your kid's sports team.

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What to do now

Now fill in your list:

1. What things have you already been doing in a job?

2. What training have you received?

3. What would you highlight on a CV, if you were writing one?

4. What experience has your job history given you?

5. What out-of-work experience have you had?

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Again, any common themes?

Can you group things into types of experience?

How to Find your Passion - What did you do as a child?

How do you find your passion - Part 2

Here's a quick task, that follows on from the previous post 'Remember Your Successes".

1. What did you do when you were a child and you had free time?

2. What did you do as a child that made time fly? When you were 'in the zone'.

3. What did you look forward to most as a child?

Maybe it was playing with other kids in the play ground - playing what? Were you directing events, or being in the background? Or that quiet time alone at home making things. What type of things? - crafty, technical, large, outside? Or reading a book. What sort of book? Did you collect things? What sort of things? Were you always on the go physically? or preferred to sit in a corner somewhere?

The idea here is to drill down a bit into the detail. What was it about the activity that you enjoyed? How did you show up in that activity? What sort of skills were you using? What sort of interests were they? Maybe playing with dolls is not going to provide a life passion now, but were you being nurturing when you were playing with dolls? Or creating stories? Or crafting dolls houses?

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What to do now

1. Make a list of things you did as a child by choice

2. For each item, why did you choose that? What was enjoyable to you about that?

3. For each item, who were you being as you did it? - alone and quiet? a leader? in the limelight? analytical? physical?

4. For each item, what skills were you using?

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And then, for extra points, Which of these activities do you still do now?

How to Find Your Passion - Remember Your Successes

How do you find your passions easily?

What do you do that is so natural to you, you hardly notice? What is easy, and just 'you'? Well, if you could find these things, they are an excellent place to start with finding your passions.

"Let the beauty of what you love be what you do"

                                                                Rumi

What are your successes?

How do you bring the obvious into view then? One way is to start by remembering your success already. Where have you already succeeded? Maybe its fitness, or you own your own home, or you have a thriving garden, or you got that qualification, or you have an amazing stamp collection.

Make a list of all the areas that are already a success. It doesn't matter if they seem irrelevant, or not something that will make you a career. In fact, those 'irrelevant' things may well be the very things that are hiding in plain sight, that point to your true passions.

What we are looking for here are the attitudes and things you did to make these areas a success, as well as things that you may have over looked as being important.

Why are these successful?

And then, why are these areas a success? You did some things to make them happen, right? They came about with effort and attitude and perseverance.

Here are some ideas from my own lists of successes, things that I (surprisingly to myself) did to make my areas successful.

- Know you will succeed
- Believe that you can
- Look at the positives
- Know the positive benefits of success and keep them in mind
- Give it your dominant attention
- It is a habit
- Do it every day
- Schedule it
- Keep doing it even when things get hard or boring
- Re-evaluate occasionally and make changes and tweaks to improve things
- Constantly learn
- Read books
- Research
- Improve constantly
- Enjoy doing it
- Be excited by it
- Get advice from experts
- Have a mentor
- Watch others
- Share it with others
- Find others doing the same thing
- Do it to a method
- Make easy small steps so you can accomplish small milestones (tick boxes are a favourite for me!)
- Don't give up
- Go with the flow

3 Easy steps to do right now to Find your Passions

What to do now

Now you need to make your own list.

1. Find an area where you already have success.

2. Why is this area a success? Use the list above for inspiration, and add any others that apply.

3. List all the things that you have done that make this area a success, as many as you can. Try for at least 10 reasons for each area of success.

Repeat for another area of success.

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Any common themes? Any things that took you by surprise? Any aha! moments? Excellent! We'll try a few other ways of tackling this problem, then put them all together and see what is revealed.

4 Critical Keys to Finding Your Passion

How do you find your Passion? 

Do you even have a passion? How do you find that one thing that will make all the difference to your life, make everything easy, and oh, make you a million dollars?

Well, I have said before that maybe we don't have One Thing that is our destiny. But what say we had some things that we just love to do? What say we have things that are as natural as breathing to us. And the trick with these things is that they are as natural to us as breathing, so we just don't notice them. Who actually notices breathing? Only people who can't do it well and have a problem, the rest of us do it on auto pilot.

I remember my talented sister when she was young, she can draw amazingly. Its just a thing she does. Not something that rates as extraordinary to her. A bit like people who can sing. Is it a valued thing? Well, probably not so much, its just what happens, right? But for the rest of us who can't draw / sing this seems like an incredible super power. The same with your passions. They're the things we do when we are doing 'stuff' and not noticing. So, how do we bring them to light, so we can see the things that are easy and natural and truly 'us'?

One way to start is to look at our lives and find the common themes. Start with this list and fill in some of these areas, and see if you can see the things that are hiding in plain sight.

4 Key Areas to Find your Passion

1. Look at your past

- Where have you been successful already? What areas of your life are good? It might be study, or your home, or relationships, or your fitness, or that excellent sport you play, or the cross stitch you can't wait to get home to and do. List them out.
- Why were you successful in these areas? What did you do to make them a success?
- Remember what you chose to do as a child when you had free time.
- What experience and life skills have you acquired?

2. Who are you?

- What are your unique attributes? Are you logical? Inquisitive? Caring?
- What are your values?
- What are your skills and talents?
- Complete this sentence "I am someone who..." and this one "I am a ....person".
- What do you believe?

3. What are you interested and drawn to?

- What do you love to do?
- What do you spend your time on?
- What do you spend your free time on?
- What are you doing when time flies?
- What are you doing when you feel most beautiful?
- What do you look forward to doing after work?

4. What would you like?

- What would be ideal in your life?

- If you could do anything for a job, what would it be?

- What is your dream?

- What would an ideal world be like?

I'll break these down a bit more in posts to follow.